Today's post isn't just about weight loss, although the message can resonate with it.
This post is for anyone out there who is feeling low, sad, shattered, broken and/or defeated.
It does get better.
Sometimes the rug is yanked from underneath us. We lose a job, we lose a loved one, we lose a child, we lose a home, we lose our partner, we lose ourselves, we lose hope.
It does get better.
There are phases when this happens. The first phase is shock, devastation, fear, insecurity, feeling lost. There is no right or wrong way in this process. Some of us put all of our energy into work to not deal, some of us sit in a dark room and cry uncontrollably, some of us scream, some of us question the unfairness of it, some of us lose our ability to catch a full breath.
It does get better.
Sometimes we make choices out of desperation, fear, anger, etc. Sometimes we turn to people we shouldn't for comfort, sometimes we resort to unthinkable things when in survival mode. Sometimes we hurt ourselves or others to transfer the pain we are feeling.
It does get better
The hardest part in overcoming things like this is to accept the reality for what it is. The reality. Reality does NOT mean final outcome. It just means the current reality. We have the ability to constantly change the outcomes in the road ahead of us.
It does get better.
Sometimes we have to just take a couple deep breaths, recognize what is happening around us and accept it momentarily as we make a mental note on how we want to feel on the other side of this mess. Yes, it sucks when you are in the eye of the storm. It sucks when you feel lost and broken and maybe have no energy to fight.
It does get better.
Take a few moments and stop thinking about how this is hurting you. Instead, visualize yourself at your best. Looking your best, feeling your best, financials at their best, love at its best, friends at their best, kids at their best. Focus on the positive people around you. Think about others you might feel jealous of cuz they seem to have it together. Think specifically on what it is you think they have, and think how having those things would make a better version of yourself.
It does get better.
Make a list of long term things you want. Make a list of immediate things you need. Go over the list a couple of times and then start brainstorming on what steps you could do today, in this exact moment, to get you there eventually. No, it will likely not solve the immediate situation you are in right now, but it creates the foundation you need to build the steps to get there. Sometimes just changing our focus brings the things to us that we need to have it. It might takes days, weeks or even months, but doing the smallest things, in different directions can eventually lead to things falling into place when and where they need to.
It does get better.
If you struggle trying to get to that stage, talk with someone. Ask for help. People are willing to help when they see you are willing to do the work and just need help being guided and motivated. I am living proof of someone sitting in a dark room of life, unsure of what the future will hold and if I will make it out on the other side. I have struggled to find a light switch to bring light into my vision to see in front of me.
Some people have the ability to do a 180 quickly, some it takes much smaller steps but for EVERY step you take, small or large, you are telling the outside that you are a fighter, you will NOT be broken down, you will NOT be defeated, you will NOT cower to the temptations of giving up, you will NOT falter, you WILL push on, however long that takes, you WILL put out into the universe (or God, Gods, or being or whatever religion or spiritual beliefs you have) what you want and are willing to do to get there. You WILL get through this!
It does get better.
It's okay to be down here and there. Being down becomes a gauge in which to measure success off of. Pain reminds us of what we had when happiness is now present. Heartbreak gives us something to compare true love to. Deflated wallets remind us of what little we had to fight for to make us humble when it comes rolling in.
I promise, today is just a day, a single day in an entire lifetime. Sometimes we just need to shift our focus and pull ourselves up when we feel like we and pushed down.
It does get better.
"In order to find the light, you have to have been sitting in darkness."
